Làm Mẹ – Khó Hay Dễ???

Hello moms, I’m Ngoc Thuong, the mother of 3-year-old Hoang Kien (name at home is Golf). I became a mother at the age of 25, neither early nor late. During my pregnancy, I also read books to prepare for motherhood. With a little bit of knowledge at that time, I was confident that I would raise a child. But mom, life is generally funny… laugh. Now, in my free time, I talk to my moms about my “memorable” motherhood experience. Please read the experience and share with me your mother’s story. *I don’t know why since the day I had children, I liked talking so much hihi*

How Did I Eat Melon???

Preparing to be a mother so carefully, but the baby was born and still ate the first fruit: breastfeeding. Although she “understood” and determined to nursing her baby completely. But in the end, I still have a box of baby formula ready to give birth for “peace of mind” . After giving birth, both colostrum and bottle feed. And it starts here…

After 3 days , I fell in love with bottle feeding and decided to refuse to nursing. The reason: the cute little nipple is not the same as the nipple of the bottle, so I’m anti. @.@ I swear I never thought that would happen in my life. (After reading the book, I know, people already know, wrote in the book, only I have not read the book TT). 

Crying for one night, the mother’s pride rose. By all means, I have to get the baby back from the bottle. The results were successful but also very scratchy.

Next, the second sweet melon, at 6 months old, gave me weaning according to BLW. Inner protest vehemently because of fear of choking, stomachache, bla bla bla,… Grandma is actively supporting, but anti the weaning chair. She told her to feed her son but kept him locked up like a prison. *Crying a river*

The third melon: I swapped cards Glenn Doman taught my children. The whole family just said that she’s crazy, she doesn’t know what she’s doing, she’s just good at wasting money.

Just like that, the story of making my mother green with the image of “melon beds”. Please tell me I’m not alone!!!

No One’s Own Story

I’m not really alone, moms. All my friends and acquaintances are like that. 

Who said being a mother is easy, just give them a day to look after their children and they will turn pale right away! That’s how we know our moms are all superheroes, not kidding, moms, right? :D :D :D Just saying it for fun, but now let’s talk about the truth. Being a mother is difficult. Incredibly difficult.

My child in the past refused to take care of his mother, I hugged him and cried and asked if he didn’t love his mother? Mom is bad, isn’t she? Luckily, I didn’t get depressed.

My friend also couldn’t sleep because she didn’t understand why her baby refused to take a bottle (breast milk), almost lost her milk. Other friends are fastidious, only holding them in their arms to sleep. Born in 3 months, lost 10kg, even sicker than when she was a girl.

My older sister knows that until now, her children still feed her rice. Each meal takes 3 hours to cook, eat, wrestle and wash dishes (I eat 1 hour). After I finished eating, my mother had a stomachache and stopped eating.

I let my children eat according to their own needs, they were condemned as not caring about them. If the child is healthy enough, not fat, it is because the mother does not know how to take care of the child. Mother’s shoulders were heavy from the pressure of the scale. Haizzz.

If you are good, no one knows how dedicated your mother is to teaching you. But the bad child is because of the mother. If you let your children be wrong, teach them to be persistent, they will be told that their mothers are lazy, tolerant, and don’t know how to teach their children. @.@

Being a Mother is Hard

Being a mother is really difficult because to prepare to be a good mother requires a lot of self-exploration and learning. Mothers need to know about the benefits of breast milk and nutrition for their babies. Know about common child diseases to take care of. Mothers also have to understand the child’s personality to communicate and teach. The knowledge that makes us confident to be mothers is probably on par with an encyclopedia. 

In fact, no one forced her to do everything well. But my mother loves me and wants to take care of me the best, so I volunteered . Isn’t that right, moms?

Is it not enough for the self-created pressure of the mother, but also a lot of pressure from the outside. Why raise a child so thin! Why don’t you pick me up when you cry, don’t tuck your nipples away. Other people’s children are like that, and their children are like that. Sometimes I feel like I’m the one tenorshare 4mekey crack raising children for others, but I’m not the biological mother anymore. Because there’s something about me that I’m not interfered with???

There are times when I just want to stop being a mom for a day ! Want to go on a trip, have a coffee with friends, try on a new dress, etc. Let me bury my head in work 24/7 so I don’t have to deal with childcare.

But that’s just a temporary feeling. After a few hours, I started to miss something like I missed my lover. Children are a real problem, but they are extremely addictive.

The Road Everyone Must Go Through

Have you noticed what all mothers and children have in common? Let me tell you. That is:

Anyone who is going to be a mother must be ready to breastfeed. Mothers “milk cows” do not experience engorgement, clogged milk ducts also have less milk, struggling to stimulate milk. 

Your 6 month old baby will eat solids no matter what. Mother must learn how to prepare nutritious food, children eat delicious. Choose to feed your child by himself or carry him around? 

Preparing to be a mother is to always be ready to take care of a sick child. If you don’t have eczema, you will also have heat rash. No fever, typhus, cough, and persistent runny nose. The life of raising small children is also experienced two or three times holding the child to the hospital in the middle of the night.

Children under the age of 2 are likely to go through a week of crisis, persistent crying, refusing to breastfeed, and sleeping hard. Past that age is the crisis of the age of three, say nothing, ask not to be a victim. Children who go to kindergarten are not often sick, they often forget things, if they are not shy, they will beat and bite friends. 

Those are the stages that every nursing mother has to go through. Not only giving birth to the first child, but also the second and third babies also go through those stages.

Who sees a child hungry for milk but does not feel sorry, is not determined to stimulate milk? Who sees that their child is anorexic but does not find the “secret” to help their child eat elastic? Who can see the fever and leave it and sleep soundly?

If you have a problem, you must find a solution. If I don’t find out soon enough, it’s time to find out. Knowing in advance, when it happens, I can confidently handle it. But “burning oil” but finding a solution is both stressful and chaotic. 

Do n’t tell me you don’t have time. When the deadline is close to the butt, but the tide is high, the house is overflowing, you have to take the bucket and slap it. 

In Difficult Things There Is Less Difficulty

In general, determining to have a child will be difficult, it will be miserable. The important thing is that when facing difficulties, do you choose to live with the flood or buy a surfboard? I choose the second way, find a solution to solve the problem.

When my baby refuses to breastfeed, I find ways to breastfeed again. Successful results. When I have less milk, I try to increase milk, but it fails. Feeding your baby on his own at 6 months has failed. 3 years old practice again also successful.

My best friend’s son has a hard time sleeping, for a month practicing easy sleeping. It’s easier now than before.

My friend’s daughter was often sick, she was too scared to take medicine for a while, so she tried reading books. After having knowledge, mild illness, she confidently let her children surf on their own to increase resistance. Pay attention to prevention, only take medicine when absolutely necessary. As a result, the whole year, the children only got mildly sick 1-2 times a year.

Another child who is slow to speak, her mother worked hard to interact, now she speaks like a flute. Only my mother couldn’t bear to go elsewhere, but I said I don’t know what fatigue is. 

The previous neighbor’s kid was very abusive, his mother surrendered at first. After the worm was still writhing, the mother decided to be tough. I heard that the peach branch is delicious now.

I find it difficult to be a mother, but it’s not impossible. I learned from good parenting mothers that no child is easy to raise. But the difference between mothers raising “easy” children is that when facing difficulties, mothers find ways to solve them. 

Bone and Blood Experience

I also learned from that, sometimes succeeding, sometimes failing. Failure has many reasons. But the most outstanding thing is whether I know the right method and persevere.

Like when stimulating milk, I did not understand the method clearly, so I failed. At the time of weaning, the method was correct, but because of psychological pressure from the family, it was not patient enough. However, then the consequences are too great, patiently reapply successfully.

So, parents who have difficulties raising children, do not rush to give up . Don’t be miserable for years to come because of the easy present. My grandparents said that it’s not wrong to be miserable Softwares.Downloaded in the future.

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Tâm Sự Cuối

We’re in the 4.0 era, so we can’t raise children like the stone age, moms. I am also from a passive mother who always follows the needs of her children. Struggling to cope with the erratic sun and rain of the child. Now I take the initiative, raise healthy children, teach them to listen. Importantly, now I have time to read books, exercise, beautify, do the things I like,… So don’t think that it’s hard for you to bear. Let’s have a thought towards scientific and advanced ways of raising children. To raise children is joy and happiness, not torture. Wishing all pregnant mothers, mothers who are not attractive, are always fresh and green! Thank you moms for listening. See you on a beautiful sunny day, I’ll be back to listen again ^^